Comments on: His Breakfast : Noodles with Stir fry tofu http://jyothsnay.wordpress.com/2008/04/05/his-breakfast-noodles-with-stir-fry-tofu/ In a mishmash of languages, by dissimilar routes we all come upon :Silence {Pablo Neruda} Something of yesterday clings to today, a flag or a potsherd; or simply a notion of light, an unwinding thread-essential tenacity..something persists! Fri, 05 Sep 2008 20:22:19 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=MU hourly 1 By: jyothsnay http://jyothsnay.wordpress.com/2008/04/05/his-breakfast-noodles-with-stir-fry-tofu/#comment-2515 jyothsnay Wed, 06 Aug 2008 04:33:59 +0000 http://jyothsnay.wordpress.com/?p=1671#comment-2515 Girl well, I agree with on some points, while nod disapprovingly at that bit Role models or the individual to be talked about almost like a beacon of one's life are not driven by their achievements alone. Essential things like values, beliefs, the kind of struggles that person would have gone through (life's not about achievements, celebrities or those who shot up into the bloody limelight, but it's about that tough stance against conflicts n uncertainities, there are "Celebrity dust gatherers" too...it's abut that disarmingly humility factor too, which is a vantage point for parents Talking about my parents n my sisters (one of them is a big achiever), according to me, is not PDA, but the kind of struggles we were part of, the verve and firm determination to take certain sacrifices n specific life-changing decisions for someone dear / loved one in the family...such human acts are beyond the regular achievements.... havign said that, yes, a few individuals that we meet or work with or interact with or whose works we read or see, woudl easily slip into the role of "aspirational model" as they somehow influence us to work towards the goals yet to be tasted n felt :) Girl
well, I agree with on some points, while nod disapprovingly at that bit
Role models or the individual to be talked about almost like a beacon of one’s life are not driven by their achievements alone. Essential things like values, beliefs, the kind of struggles that person would have gone through (life’s not about achievements, celebrities or those who shot up into the bloody limelight, but it’s about that tough stance against conflicts n uncertainities, there are “Celebrity dust gatherers” too…it’s abut that disarmingly humility factor too, which is a vantage point for parents

Talking about my parents n my sisters (one of them is a big achiever), according to me, is not PDA, but the kind of struggles we were part of, the verve and firm determination to take certain sacrifices n specific life-changing decisions for someone dear / loved one in the family…such human acts are beyond the regular achievements….

havign said that, yes, a few individuals that we meet or work with or interact with or whose works we read or see, woudl easily slip into the role of “aspirational model” as they somehow influence us to work towards the goals yet to be tasted n felt
:)

]]> By: Ms Taggart http://jyothsnay.wordpress.com/2008/04/05/his-breakfast-noodles-with-stir-fry-tofu/#comment-2511 Ms Taggart Tue, 05 Aug 2008 13:48:45 +0000 http://jyothsnay.wordpress.com/?p=1671#comment-2511 I take ur bit about coming out of the cocoon. But my say is, Mom and Dad/Family will always have its importance, and it will never diminish. Just that, have some unattainable role model, someone who has done some real progress in a field of your choice, so that we can atleast stick to the 'Aim at the stars' line. I feel making family as a role model is like telling the world how much you love them, which is not needed. That kind of PDA is not required atleast in the case of immediate family, its known, thats all! I take ur bit about coming out of the cocoon.
But my say is, Mom and Dad/Family will always have its importance, and it will never diminish. Just that, have some unattainable role model, someone who has done some real progress in a field of your choice, so that we can atleast stick to the ‘Aim at the stars’ line.

I feel making family as a role model is like telling the world how much you love them, which is not needed. That kind of PDA is not required atleast in the case of immediate family, its known, thats all!

]]> By: jyothsnay http://jyothsnay.wordpress.com/2008/04/05/his-breakfast-noodles-with-stir-fry-tofu/#comment-2508 jyothsnay Mon, 04 Aug 2008 10:11:09 +0000 http://jyothsnay.wordpress.com/?p=1671#comment-2508 Dear girl :) I have a mixed opinion about this role model bit...I realised (am shamelessly admitting) how *intensely* I miss my mom, dad and the cocoonish home only after I moved to the commercial capital of India. n it is palpable in my informal / out of work conversations...Mother/Father or parents will continue to be the guiding principle, the grounded benchmarks of life with disamrming level of humility, for most of us, the highly ambitious and driven creatures. n are not we living in the times when the role models are no longer the distant n unachievable Big B , SRKs ..but the ones within the family, the neighbourhood..talk to any small town kid, she or he will talk about his/her brother who is now moved to US of A... guess, role models have beocme more accessible and achievable now..they certainly not those weavers of distant dreams Dear girl

:)
I have a mixed opinion about this role model bit…I realised (am shamelessly admitting) how *intensely* I miss my mom, dad and the cocoonish home only after I moved to the commercial capital of India. n it is palpable in my informal / out of work conversations…Mother/Father or parents will continue to be the guiding principle, the grounded benchmarks of life with disamrming level of humility, for most of us, the highly ambitious and driven creatures. n are not we living in the times when the role models are no longer the distant n unachievable Big B , SRKs ..but the ones within the family, the neighbourhood..talk to any small town kid, she or he will talk about his/her brother who is now moved to US of A…

guess, role models have beocme more accessible and achievable now..they certainly not those weavers of distant dreams

]]> By: Ms Taggart http://jyothsnay.wordpress.com/2008/04/05/his-breakfast-noodles-with-stir-fry-tofu/#comment-2507 Ms Taggart Fri, 01 Aug 2008 13:00:00 +0000 http://jyothsnay.wordpress.com/?p=1671#comment-2507 Honestly, I hate the moment when people say that their role model is their Mother or someone from the family. Its soo cliched! Gimme a break guys... come out of that cocoon, see other people, travel a bit.. and then pick a role model. Its good to love the family, but it should not go to the point of obsession! Honestly, I hate the moment when people say that their role model is their Mother or someone from the family. Its soo cliched!
Gimme a break guys… come out of that cocoon, see other people, travel a bit.. and then pick a role model.
Its good to love the family, but it should not go to the point of obsession!

]]> By: jyothsnay http://jyothsnay.wordpress.com/2008/04/05/his-breakfast-noodles-with-stir-fry-tofu/#comment-2373 jyothsnay Thu, 24 Apr 2008 04:15:18 +0000 http://jyothsnay.wordpress.com/?p=1671#comment-2373 Nanda Our institutional setup (did you mean our Family system?) is not fully conducive for pursuing individualistic life....dnot you think to "stay back in the cocoon being nurtured by elders in the family" or to "move out of the cocoon to better n bigger cities - the world of opportunities" is an individual decision, which is completely different from "leading an individualistic life" (western concept) I stayed with my parents in the same house (I prefer to call it A HOME) , instead of living in a separate flat n visiting them over the weekend. cause I seek "home like comfort"...n when I move to a new city, n searching for a place to live, the key driver for me to prefer a place over the other was not the INVESTMENT. but the opportunity to live in a "home like atmosphere", even if it does not allow me certain degree of privacy. I have to compromise on something (far more manageable) to gain / to enjoy something more essential....THE COMFORT of having older people going about their regular daily chores like preparing food in the kitchen, etc etc Nanda

Our institutional setup (did you mean our Family system?)
is not fully conducive for pursuing individualistic life….dnot you think to “stay back in the cocoon being nurtured by elders in the family” or to “move out of the cocoon to better n bigger cities - the world of opportunities” is an individual decision, which is completely different from “leading an individualistic life” (western concept)

I stayed with my parents in the same house (I prefer to call it A HOME) , instead of living in a separate flat n visiting them over the weekend. cause I seek “home like comfort”…n when I move to a new city, n searching for a place to live, the key driver for me to prefer a place over the other was not the INVESTMENT. but the opportunity to live in a “home like atmosphere”, even if it does not allow me certain degree of privacy. I have to compromise on something (far more manageable) to gain / to enjoy something more essential….THE COMFORT of having older people going about their regular daily chores like preparing food in the kitchen, etc etc

]]> By: A. N. Nanda http://jyothsnay.wordpress.com/2008/04/05/his-breakfast-noodles-with-stir-fry-tofu/#comment-2369 A. N. Nanda Tue, 15 Apr 2008 17:56:15 +0000 http://jyothsnay.wordpress.com/?p=1671#comment-2369 Hi, I believe even for the new-generation fellows it's still possible to cherish the family bond...or if it's not possible to accommodate that in the context of pursuing bigger dreams, to find a golden mean and pursue it. By this I mean exchange of visits, regular chats, attending social functions, helping family members at the time of their need, and so forth. Living together is not possible. Our institutional setup is not fully conducive for pursuing individualistic life. Say, one is more comfortable borrowing from brothers than from a bank; in an outstation trip one is more comfortable to spend the night at a relative's place than in a hotel room. Thanks. Nanda http://ramblingnanda.blogspot.com http://remixoforchid.blogspot.com Hi,

I believe even for the new-generation fellows it’s still possible to cherish the family bond…or if it’s not possible to accommodate that in the context of pursuing bigger dreams, to find a golden mean and pursue it. By this I mean exchange of visits, regular chats, attending social functions, helping family members at the time of their need, and so forth. Living together is not possible. Our institutional setup is not fully conducive for pursuing individualistic life. Say, one is more comfortable borrowing from brothers than from a bank; in an outstation trip one is more comfortable to spend the night at a relative’s place than in a hotel room.

Thanks.

Nanda
http://ramblingnanda.blogspot.com
http://remixoforchid.blogspot.com

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